"What really bothers me actually are the back-handed compliments. Like ‘Oh you’re so good for a plus sized model!’ or ‘You’re so flexible for being a big girl!’ or ‘You’re such a good model for not being a size zero!’ That’s the stuff that is really distasteful." -Freshie Juice
Read the full interview here. Photo by Dylan Staley.
Intersex people are not rare, just invisible.
Unfortunately, there’s a lot of shame and secrecy within our communities, perpetuating the invisibility. I’ve had doctors tell me over and over again that I’d never meet anyone else like me. (Thankfully, that was not the case.) So many intersex people like me have been instructed by our doctors, parents, and friends not to tell anyone about our conditions, which makes us feel shameful and unworthy.
I’ve been poked, prodded, and gawked at by so many doctors, it’s enough to make anyone feel like a science experiment. They say how excited they are to meet someone like you, they’ll “never meet another person like this, ever.” But when they say that to you as a kid, all you hear is “you’re a freak.”
I just found my #sexed homework from 10th grade, dated January, 2001. THIS is why I became a #sexologist. Let’s deconstruct how bad this is. 1⃣ They actually explain the word clitoris. Holy shit! But merely refer to it as “a small, round, sensitive area of skin”. It’s not actually an “area of skin” anymore than a penis is “an area of skin” (yes, technically, but a poor description). It’s also not really that small. No mention of it’s function, even though the function of everything else is explained. No mention of pleasure. No mention of sexual response. No mention of orgasm. Just “sensitive”. My eyeball is sensitive too, so what?!? This description is useless! 2⃣ The clitoris is missing on the drawing on the next page in the packet. Fail. 3⃣ The word “orgasm” is in the word bank for the male reproductive system, but not female. It goes alphabetically from “menstruation” right to “ovaries”. Guys! Only males have orgasms! #sexedfail #erasure #thisisimportant! #cliteracy #imstillangry #14yearslater
If any of you are taking sex education (or if you’re in the southern United States, more likely “abstinence only class”) or health class and you have any assignments like this that are hilariously sad, feel free to send them my way!
(sorry for the gendering language in the reblogged post)